Recently I met one of my secondary school friend at KL Sentral station.
In the end I found out that her office is just some walks away in MV.
I'm not surprise and not even expect we'll be meeting each other again often.
She always reminds me to be humble at all the time and never raise my egoistic when i met her again and again. It was few years ago, during my first year college in The One Academy, when I met her and her family members back since we finished secondary schooling. She always reminds me of the expressions that her mother's stared at me in disrespect when she was told that I'm taking design course.
At that moment I swore i would never want to meet her mom again cause I won't want to talk to this kind of person.
My friend is a top student at school so do her elder sister. They both were popularly intelligent, hardworking, active in academic and sport so much you can tell. They both are very friendly to all people. I always envy them. But I'm doubt with their mother's attitude and old generation's mindset of having some talented children and the friends they're hanging around with.
Like my parents, she thought design make no future.
(Personally, I disagree that. It is how I manage my future no matter where i am and what i did. Example the brother lawyer murdering cases recently being investigated. So what's the point of being lawyers?? If you are needed to hire a lawyer for your important case now, would you feel a little suspicious that, is this lawyer good?? Will the opponent lawyer do smth bad to make you loose?? Who knows.)
For me, it's about professional, that's all. I respect myself as a designer, account executive and now barista.
Back to the friend i met, recently she got some problems which majority ppl will face when they got out to work for few months already - complaints about senior's attitude towards her. I faced this situation last few months and now it becomes hatred.
I don't want this happen to other ppl around me. I want to help her get rid of complaining attitude so I adviced her to focus on making the result happen in work.
Thank god she came back to me with saying that's a good advice! She back to work like a fresh grad or professional again! She also happy that I listened to her problems. Then I only found out that actually she have a thought of quitting. But majority ppl around her including me adviced her to stay so she decided to stay. I'm so happy by that moment. Not because of my contribution, but she's been helped and is guided to think and do positively to solve problems (well at least of all the ppl out there).
Human is a weak soul if being hurt before no matter on surface how they act.
It applies to having relationship and putting efforts in work. When majority human don't feel appreciated, betrayed and being alienated, they'll fall and never put 100% effort on the next ride again. It's natural even to animals. But since we humans are intelligent animals, we must know how filter past experience and the new us.
I don't care how much effort i put into things that i wanna make them happen. But if one day i fall I'll learn from it and go all out again next time with my past experience lessons + better planning + making right decision.
It is being to fair back to myself then everything around me is fair.
Mayb because of the senior of my friend face the same thing as my friend before and she didn't look into solving the problems immediately so the 'unfair to herself and she'll be unfair to others' mindset forms - bad behaviour, habit and attitude executed the mindset.
Nothing is impossible to change if you don't improve yourself, your mindset, and your attitude.
My friend's mother is being rude to me same as my parents last time were not fair to me too, but things has passed and i just need to take this experience, look into the bright side and go all out again. I keep reminding myself i don't have to hurt others to get to the highest hierachy to prove to them that I'm good.
Being humble is already GREAT in building a better future.
To all people who's reading this, "You hurt is because you tried before" - Wayan, Eat, Pray, Love. "That doesn't mean you can't go all out again" - me
Be happy next time.
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